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Feb 13: a primer

Posted on February 13, 2012 Written by Diane

A few years ago Darin and I went out for dinner on Feb. 13, because that was the night we had arranged for date night. It was a Tuesday, which generally speaking is dead (one of the reasons we like going out on Tuesday nights).

To our surprise, the restaurant we picked was packed. We asked the maître d’ what was going on. We would have expected the place to be packed on February 14, but not February 13.

Without missing a beat the maître d’ said, “February 14 is for wives, February 13 is for girlfriends and mistresses.”

Wow. That’s romantic.

In case you’re wondering why your guy absolutely needed to work late tonight…now you know.

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Favorite quotes

Posted on February 12, 2012 Written by Diane

I like quotations. Everyone does, of course; that’s why we see them all over the place.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”

— Maya Angelou

I can’t remember where I first heard of the concept of a Commonplace book, but it seems like such a great idea. We’re used to having spiral notebooks full of received wisdom in classes, or in journals filled with our private thoughts and experiences. But what of books of knowledge that we compile — not secret info, but things that strike us as important or that we want to remember.

“I even have a superstition that has grown on me as the result of invisible hands coming all of the time—namely, that if you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open doors for you. I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be. … Wherever you are, if you are—if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.”

— Joseph Campbell

I use Yojimbo all the time, primarily to save web pages I find interesting, but somehow that’s different. That’s more like a shoebox full of newspaper clippings, like I (yes) used to keep when I was younger. Of course, I go through my collection of Yojimbo articles about as often as I went through that shoebox; i.e., never.

(Although that’s not quite true: I started going through the Yojimbo articles to see which ones stuck out as something I might be interested investigating further as story ideas. I came across one article about abandoned houses being used for indoor marijuana growers. Then I found another article that was almost the exact same thing, except it was printed four years later and in a different town. Apparently I’m really intrigued about the idea of marijuana growers taking over abandoned houses. And also it’s a problem that’s not going away any time soon.)

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

— Theodore Roosevelt

Anyhow. I keep a list of meaningful quotations in a file, and I add to it every so often. I find it’s very useful for an attitude reset, or a small burst of inspiration, or even to get an idea of my next reading. Honestly, I’m going to read Epictetus and William James any moment now. I’m quite sure of it.

I also find it interesting to see what quotations speak to me and which ones don’t. You’re either stirred by an idea or you’re not. Which is fine — you just have to go find the ideas you are stirred by. And if everything just brings you down, honestly… Get out more. Go photograph a flower or sniff a tree or sketch a sport car or something. Get out of the damn house.

“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.”

— John Allen Paulos

I find I get the most out of the ideas I find the most shocking — like Paulos’s. Why does what he said upset me? What would it take for me to be okay with that idea? If what he’s saying is true, what does that mean about the rest of my life?

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”

— Zig Ziglar

Some of the quotes I save are repeated everywhere (like Ziglar’s). That’s okay. That reminds me that this dose of inspiration or outlook-changing I’m doing is perfectly natural. You need to keep setting course and remembering where you want to be. And anything that propels you to do it is okay.

I highly recommend keeping a list of quotes you find meaningful.

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Sometimes

Posted on February 6, 2012 Written by Diane

I had my day planned out: I would write until 1, then go to the gym, then go get the kids.

The day started a little weird: I went to Starbucks, which was packed. The giant handicapped table near the power outlets had one guy at it. So I said, “Can I sit here?”

“Sure, sure,” he said, and he moved his stuff out of the way so I would have more space.

I put my coffee down and started unpacking my things to get working.

“What kind of coffee did you order?” he asked, pulling my cup of coffee away.

“What?” I said. I reached for my coffee.

“What did you order? I need to get you another one. I wasn’t paying attention and I drank your coffee.”

To the best of my knowledge, since I began hanging out in cafes in 1986, that’s the first time that’s ever happened.

“Grande Americano, no room,” I said.

A few minutes later he came back with my new coffee (undrunk, I hoped) and a table nearby opened up, so I moved to it.

And then no writing occurred.

(Shortly thereafter, an actual handicapped person came in and asked if they could have that table, so that guy ended up moving to the table next to mine.)

How could that be? On Sunday, when I’d had some writing time, I’d written lots. I’d left myself a cliffhanger. I knew what the next scene had to be.

Nothing happened. I wrote one sentence, practically hacking the words out of stone. The next sentence was hiding, somewhere, afraid to come out.

Oh no.

At 12:30 I finally decided I would go to the gym, work out, get the blood flowing… I checked my phone.

Four calls from Sophia. I hadn’t heard my phone once. Stupid Starbucks music system.

She wasn’t feeling well and wanted to go home. So instead of going to the gym, I went to the school, picked her up, took her home. She went upstairs to lie down. I opened my computer.

Couldn’t write.

Tried playing Tropico 3.

Hated every scenario I tried.

Read a friend’s story to send some feedback. Thought perhaps this might not be the best day for that, because nothing else seemed to be happening. Sent it anyhow.

Sophia came down an hour later to get some lunch.

One of Darin’s great gifts (or strengths, or abilities, or whatever) is that he can concentrate through anything. I can’t. I know I should work on that. But if one of the kids is home, around for any reason, only half of my concentration is present. (And it hadn’t exactly shown up earlier in the day, anyhow.)

I finally called it a day at about 3:30 or 4. I played some Civilization IV. The civ I built annoyed me and I quit the game.

Some days it just doesn’t pay to get started.

 

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